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It’s Okay To Ask For Help

It's Okay To Ask For Help

Hello lovelies,

I wanted to share a quick thought I had with you so this is nothing fancy.

I’m sure all of you growing up have been told that to succeed in this society you need to be a strong, independent individual. Am I wrong?

Well, I find that this often causes people to put up a front, to hide who they are because they are afraid to show weakness. Most people will hold in the difficulties they are facing, thinking that they can resolve them on their own. They hide it, in fear they will disappoint someone who was expecting that ideal out of them. It makes you feel stuck like a fly on a tape trap- seeing where you could go but not being able to move in that direction (or at least I did).

In my continuing journey to self-love, I hit this roadblock. I kept telling myself, “I’m supposed to be strong. I don’t need help, I can do it on my own!” I didn’t want to disappoint my parents who had worked so hard to raise me in that way. I didn’t want to admit that work was driving me into exhaustion racking over 60 hours a week. I didn’t want to admit that I couldn’t handle the challenge. I also didn’t want to admit that I didn’t like where I was and what I was doing. Showing my weaknesses was a scary thing and I refused to do it. I eventually got sick of these words in my head and said, “OH SCREW IT!”

What I found was exactly what I had been trying to do in the first place. You see, when I took a sledgehammer to my great wall (like Great Wall of China great) and gave up my control, I talked to those I respected about how I was having a hard time taking my own advice and my other struggles. In doing this, I had actually gathered and demonstrated the greatest strength I had within me.

I realized that asking for help calls for bravery and courage. It shows how strong you are to be able to admit your own faults, your own failures, and everything in between with pure honesty. My help came in the form of just being able to talk to someone about my frustrations, but for most people, it helps open up so much more. In the end, I realized that all my parents had taught me, I was truly fulfilling, I wasn’t a disappointment after all.

My point is this:

It’s ok to be afraid to ask for help, all of us are. However, it is a braver act to ask for help than to keep it to yourself. So many people out there care. Trust me, they really do (I am one of them). Asking for help is an act of allowing others to love you, just be willing to let them. There is NO SHAME in choosing NOT to go it alone.

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1 Comment

  1. Amy Burback
    August 3, 2016 / 4:21 PM

    Happy to read about your self-reflection and growth. An Afican proverbs offers this: “If you want to go fast go alone, if you want to far, go together.”

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